Earlier this month, a blogger for Thought Catalog, named Amy Glass wrote a very controversial article titled, I Look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry. The article condemns stay at home moms to the point where she states, Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same. I am appalled that she has the gall to shame women who chose to stay at home with their children. Yes, career and other accomplishments in life are amazing but so is having the ability to raise your children 24 hours a day. I do not think any option is better than the next but I do think they both have their places. After my oldest was born, I chose to quit my job (yes thankfully my husband was on board and financially it worked for us) to be at home with my son. It has almost been 7 years and 3 kids later and I do not regret my decision. Sometimes I wish I had a job just to contribute to our financially to our household and to have something else on my plate (besides mommy). Thankfully BabyRecs has given me the happy medium that I wanted. I work when my kids are in school and when my daughter is napping and at night when all 3 are in bed. The rest of the time I get to be at home with my kids and play, take them to activities, do projects, teach them and just plain and simple be with them during these formidable years.
Amy Glass stated I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. What she is doing is putting every stay at home mom in a small little envelope saying we are all the same. Some of us have Masters degrees and still chose to stay at home. Some of us are professionals who went through many years of schooling and then worked before choosing to stay at home. I am not without accomplishments nor am I without aspirations in life. Mine just do not follow the line of career aspirations, it comes in a different form.
I really despise the sense of entitlement or eliteness that women have with each other. The drama is irritating because both staying at home and working are tough in their own ways. Some women could never be happy as a stay at home mom and others love it. I know that I would not have been happy working full time. I would have been sad to miss out on the daily life of my children and I enjoy the mundane/routine with the excitement. I find it fulfilling in its own way and I am not sorry for my choice and I do not feel like a failure or loser. Staying at home is not for everyone but it is also a choice just like working (well for some).
Amy Glass has been slammed by other bloggers and moms to the extent where she has received death threats. She has incited a lot of anger in people. She has chosen not to reveal any more information about herself so it is not known whether she is married or has children. What is known is that she feels very strongly about stay at home moms. Whatever her reason for her article, I would love to know her story just to have a better understanding of where she comes from.